You wipe with a dry cloth only ? I'd be using a soft microfibre towel with a quick detailing spray.
In my experience -
Best polish products - Menzerna
Best leather care - Swissvax, followed by Zaino (or Pinnacle is a great substitute)
Best wax - depends if you wish to use a carnauba paste wax or a sealant. Currently I'm either using Swissvax or Zymol
Best shampoo - this is purely individual preference, as there is no "wrong" brand. Currently I love Eimann Fabrik which I purchased from the USA, but unfortunately that dealer no longer is in business :(
Best polishing machine - Flex 3401 forced orbital, or a DeWalt rotary if you're confident enough to use one
Microfibre - It's just a matter of finding the softest, best quality out there. You can't skimp here
Other than that, stuff like tyre black, sponges, etc is just personal preference. I use the least greasy tyre black that doesn't "sling" too much. Use the two bucket method, rinse all the time, and always leave wheels and underbody last, and clean with a different sponge. I mostly dry with a synthetic chamois, but I ocassionally use a microfibre drying towel.
Some good sites to source detailing products are -
http://www.waxit.com.au/index.php?option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=1
http://www.carcareproducts.com.au/
If you want to look o/s,
http://www.autogeek.net/
Where in Victoria are you located ? The best auto car wash I have found is this place -
http://www.watertunnel.com.au/Default.aspx
Although admitedly, I only use them infrequently when I'm busy/lazy/tired to wash myself. They have never damaged any of my cars. If it's good enough for a Gallardo, it's good enough for me.