Ah cool, we should cruise some time ;)
Changing to a less brighter hid would change the temperature/colour of the light (I think?), you could just adjust your lights so they don't beam too high.
Get your car on a flat surface close to a wall, turn your head lights on, get some sockets and a wrench (I think 8mm can't remember) and start turning the knobs on the back of the head lights for the low beams. Lower enough so that they don't blind on coming traffic and you will have less attention.
Or, you could buy OEM bulbs, but I'm not sure what type they are as I have an IS300, either 9006 or 6009 lol, you should probably do a search on that.